I suppose there is a book on grief somewhere. Rules, expectations, examples of handling the stress and strain and even the huge change that occurs from caregiver to the one left behind. I guess I’m an outside the box type of person. I’m pretty sure I grew up and spent my adult life not even aware that a box existed. I do what I think is right most of the time and damn the consequences.
So in my handling of grief I hike with my dogs and camera, trying new and different venues. I came upon S6 trail in Harriet Hollister Recreation Center near Honeoye Lake. I was thinking of all those things it might stand for. Stress level 6? For me that was a possible! So instead of using the “box” reasoning our whole walk was a reduction in stress. A few days ago the stress level was 10 so I was happy to think it went down to 6! A beautiful place, a beautifully peaceful walk and I tried to breathe and enjoy.
The next day I felt refreshed and had a golf outing scheduled and lunch after with my sister. Again a great day of golf and nice lunch. Right before I came home my sister says, “Do you realize your shirt is inside out?”
I guess maybe I have a ways to go. At least it was outside the box!
Peace, seek joy. (P.S. Joy is often times outside the box. I know this because I live there.)